The 4th C in Choosing a Mate - Consistant Growth
Is Christ the center of their lives, not an appendage or religious activity, but the very hub that holds it together, the compass by which they find their direction, the joy and filter of approval for all of their actions? Not ‘what would Jesus do’ and imitating Him, but ‘what is Jesus doing through me’ with their goal being His purpose and His glory not their comfort or success.
Do they see themselves as a part of His family and desire to be in submission to His given authorities (secular and spiritual)? Do they have a real desire to be in Church where they can, grow in truth and love, a true disciple of Christ, not of a man or system?
Is the Word of God, written and living, the final authority and the first and final answer to every debate and decision?
“If you continue in My word, then you are truly disciples of Mine; and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.” John 8:31&32
Does their theology leave room for creative diversity within the Covenant bounds of God, or are they dogmatic on preferences insisting that all should believe as they do, when the Bible gives room for choice where there is no absolute directive? Is he or she law fulfilling as they walk in the Spirit, but not legalistic? Are they ready to defend the faith, or are they ignorant of their own beliefs or ashamed of the Gospel?
Do they try to dictate your choices by domination in Bible bashing or manipulation by condescending “you’ll get it someday when you get this gift or give up this sin or when you are spiritual or holy as I am or do they encourage your personal growth and intimate relationship with the Lord Jesus so that you might be lead into all truth by the Holy Spirit.
Are they growing in ‘truth and grace and love’?
“By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:35
So, you have found a real jewel, a maturing Christian. This must be God’s choice for me. Right? Maybe. Maybe not! Look Deeper to the next C.